On happiness

“If you were to wake up tomorrow and your life was exactly how you wanted it to be, what would be different?”

If you’ve ever been in a graduate counseling program or have been involved in therapy, you’ve probably asked or been asked the “miracle” question. This question, often used to spark discussion about what’s needed to facilitate productive changes, is often met with one of three answers:

  1. The specific, well-thought answer where the client knows exactly what needs to change and is making strides as to how to change it (thank you for making my job easier)
  2. “I don’t know…everything”
  3. “I’d be happy”

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New Years Resolutions – not just for the first two weeks of January anymore!

The other day, after talking about some heavy topics, I had a client deflect and tell me that he was very excited for the New Year. As this particular client was not ready to talk about some of these topics at the time, I went with his deflection and asked what made him excited about the start of 2014. “New Years resolutions! I’m gonna quit smoking and stop cursing!” The next day, I had a client ask me about my own New Years resolutions, and told me that he was going to quit smoking and start exercising more. Continue reading

Nothing wrong with (un)healthy competition?

It always feels good to pass other people.

Two days ago, I ran the Broad Street Run for the second time. One month after a back injury and not training as hard as I would have wanted to, I managed to shave over two minutes off my time from last year. Unlike last year, I didn’t almost puke at the finish line. And while there is always a sense of camaraderie among runners and races as large as the Broad Street 10 miler, this year, seeing thousands of runners wearing red socks in support of Boston made this race more about coming together as a community than about competition.

So why was I mildly disappointed by my time? After all, I had set my own personal record for a 10 mile race, and I had just come off a back injury! And sure, I passed fellow racers in the first mile, the 5th mile, and passed several racers in my sprint to the finish line. All things considered, I should have been thrilled just to finish the race without exacerbating a pre-existing condition.

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